Quality time for (uninspired) couples, friends, lovers, dates and polycules

“We need to become hospitable to one another—we need to allow for each other to unfold, to pick up on what they say and what they do, enter the game, and keep playing it. Instead of limiting the other, we want to provide a stage for them to shine.”

                                                            Luce De Lire - Lessons In Revolutionary Flirting

You want to do something together? You want to reconnect, get to know each other better, get out of stuck routines or have fun that may also be profound? 

We got you!

Two days of structured whimsy dedicated to people in relation:

🖇️ Come with your partner to develop your intimacy in a space without distractions, with inspiration, and with each other.

🖇️ Come with a lover to explore the broad spectrum of how you can and want to (make) love or be loved, not leaning on scripts of how we think we should (want to) do it.

🖇️ Come with your ex to experiment with how to be together after being together.

🖇️ Come with a friend to (platonically) get closer aside from life-updates over coffee. Or to become friends with benefits – benefits that are still to be determined.

🖇️ Come with a date to express interest from a place of curiosity and playfulness, without a specific end goal in mind.

All those above-mentioned explorations can be valid for all the other relationships as well and are not tied to a certain constellation only. Because when we say “relation”, “intimacy”, “closeness” or “love” we mean the whole spectrum of what this could mean for you. It can, but doesn’t have to, involve physical touch, sexuality, shared responsibilities, romantic feelings, emotional support, etc. 

Our approach tries to minimize authority and to avoid predetermined rules, norms and hierarchies and instead invites self-determination, communication and mutual agreement to allow for unique connections.

Can I also come alone?
The exercises are tailored for people who want to go deeper with a certain somebody. But if you bring openness and flexibility to adapt the exercises you could a) explore the relationship you have to yourself, b) you could gather inspiration for your relationships outside of the workshop, c) maybe you meet other people who come solo and can try out the exercises together – but this we do not guarantee.

METHODS

We draw from relational arts, improvisation, creative play, bdsm, bodywork, awareness training, couples counselling and connection games to value floundering together, to imagine new possibilities of being well together and indulge in collective joy and care. 

Expect among other things:

🌱 Conversation scores to foster interesting dialogue and the sharing of alive thoughts, feelings, sensations and visions

🌱 Embodied exercises to become aware of those thoughts, feelings etc., to become receptive for the other, and to deepen intuition and listening skills

🌱 Playful interactions and constellations to get closer nonverbally, to see the other in a new light, and to explore richer or more suitable ways for you to interact, collaborate, show up. 

🌱 Guided exercises on possibilities for nourishing touch and on so called ‘love languages’ to get specific on topics like how you like to be greeted, hugged, soothed, massaged, kissed, fucked, shown appreciation etc.

🌱 Sensory explorations that focus on slowness and detail to bring you into a creative mindset and allow you to explore each other as so much more and beyond the people you think you are

🌱 Relaxation techniques to chill you out, facilitate connection and digest your experiences

🌱 Journaling, introspection, creative writing and input on concepts like relationship anarchy to figure out and formulate more precisely the meanings and needs behind your connection, to help you become aware of your unique dynamic and patterns, and your still-to-be-discovered potentials 

🌱 Negotiation tools to communicate those needs or wishes more clearly (e.g. for acknowledgement, freedom, safety, commitment or something more specific) while also honoring spontaneity, not-knowing and the unforeseen

🌱 Fun and easy games to allow for shared giggles and carefully guide you out of your comfort zone (when you are ready)

FACILITATORS

Beate Absalon is a cultural scholar, a workshop facilitator and a couples therapist in training under supervision who explores how society’s demands around sex and intimacy shape our relationships. She blends theory and somatic practices to question norms and open up new possibilities for closeness and consent. 2024 she published "Not Giving a Fuck. Von lustlosem Sex & sexloser Lust" exploring the erotics of failure and integrous intimacy.

Rebecca Frances studied languages at Cambridge University and now focuses on how bodies speak. She has trained in Sexological Bodywork at ISB Berlin and works as a yoga teacher, massage and breathwork therapist. She is also interested in philosophical and poetic approaches to the somatic. In her practical, creative and experimental physical practices, she uses her intellectual background and professional interests to further explore what exactly happens when bodies touch and why we want or don't want it so much.

PRICE

250€ per Person
(Sliding Scale 100-400)

REGISTER VIA

massagewithrebecca@gmail.com